Moniquej's Reviews

Totally unprofessional !!!

I hired Selesa to be my childminder for one day a week . She was early on the first day, which made a great first impression. Since then she has been late to every single pick up or hasn’t even bothered to turn up at all.Which has now caused me to face disciplinary action at work due to the number of times I’ve had to stop working to deal with her lateness. Every week she makes up a new excuse & when you try to ask questions, you are then bombarded with inappropriate messages ,5 minute long + voice notes and photos of unsanitary things. She is extremely unprofessional. She is now bombarding my partner with 7 minute long inappropriate voice messages , detailing lewd information about her toilet use including photographs. The address she claims to be located at is not even her address she is a compulsive I wouldn’t recommend her to any parent !!!

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by Moniquej about Selesa on 14/09/2024

Response by Selesa on 23/02/2025:

I have been battling my health for sometime now and only now seeing this review. I had never thought that it would come to this but I have witnesses and proof. At the time when Monique contacted me I explained her the situation and stated to her I will only do it as a side job and because it’s once a week. However, this job was extremely hectic and involved more than it was meant to be. I feared conflict of interests as the child became quite attached to me quickly and expressed love both from her and her mother. I have spent my own money on the child in regards to food and entertainment, such as day outs, movies, education stuff, taxi etc. I even aloud this beautiful child to sleep at my home as she insisted. I told the mother because of the way the child has connected to me I cannot take payment from her and will remain in the child life and assist her how I can. Put her mom kept insisting I would have to be paid that I have done soooo much for them. The mother went on and told me that the child is being bullied at school and because how connected the child was to me her mom asked me to talk to her and help her to see if she speaks out to me. This child has a young modelling career . However I did notice that she is extremely good at everything she does and in school. She is kind, beautiful and so outspoken well to me of course. But when I began talking to her about being bullied I then saw the sadness. Her mother seems to take care of her well. But her mom has an extremely selfish attitude towards my health and my wellbeing. At the time I began to get sick and I found out I had a suspected tumour in my arm, was under respiratory investigation and was diagnosed with with asthma. I found out I was pregnant and I told the mother, however the doctors were concerned about me as I am a TIA patient and have hypertension they referred me to the hospital. On one occasion I told Monique I can not collect her daughter due to my health , but Monique was more concerned about her job. I could of barely walk and in so much pain I still collected her daughter but contacted the school to say I would be late. on another occasion. My friend kept saying to me I am too nice, stop allowing this woman to manipulate you. Monique expected me to leave the hospital as I was spotting and in pain. She kept calling and texting more concerned on who will collect her daughter. The doctor sent me home to rest and I was accompanied by by my best friend. I told Monique that I can not go and she was upset , she then called me and stated I don’t have to hold her daughter that day, but I can pick her up from school and take her by her aunt which lives close to the school. Monique is a hard person to say no to. Even my friend and my adult son overheard and realise she has no heart or understanding. The relationship with Monique and I had grew close and there are things I will not disclosed on here because for the sake of the child. I loss my pregnancy because of Monique. Monique forced me to put my own life at risk to suit hers. I never need to assist her. I told her that. I was not even doing the childminding . She insisted and liked my personality etc so I did it only to help her. Monique wanted me to have her car because she doesn’t hold a licence so she wanted me to drive it and collect her and her daughter which she had another friend doing at the time. I stated to her that I do not want to do that as ai already saw where it was heading. Me using her car would mean I would have to come and drop her daughter school and pick her up everyday and also drop her mom to and from work. It slowly turned out to what I never expected. She kept insisting to put my name on the insurance etc. The day I left the hospital I told Monique over the phone in front of other people I am done . She carried on kept calling and was more concern about the weekend with me taking her daughter to Cadbury factory which I had organised and got tickets to take the child and a friend of mines. However due to me been unwell and having a threatening miscarriage I couldn’t . I stated she can have the tickets and take the child as the child is innocent in all of this . I would of thought that Monique would be more understanding being that she herself not long told me she was in hospital and had a miscarriage. I really cared about the child but because of my health I offered to be in the child’s life, assisting her weather be it homework or anything but not as a job because it would of been conflict of interest. I however will not consider in suing Monique for discrimination of my name or character on this as I do have every message or voice note from when we started speaking. However I pray that all goes well with you and your daughters life and that you try and do some sort of counselling for your controlling character you have in others. I have suffered quite emotional abuse from you and I had begged you to stopped and told you you are stressing me out and will cause me to loose my pregnancy which you did. I have put this behind me and moved on after telling you that I am done with you. You were more focus on your own needs than of my health. I risk my life for you and the proof is there. Never no one has ever spoke about me the way you did and that also can be given. You yourself has sent me messages and voice note expressing how much you all love me and how I am a blessing to both you and your princess lives. I walked away from you peacefully now to find out that you spoke about me like this after all the good I have done for you . The proof is there. If you cared about me as you said you would of been concern about my health, my life. I even offered for the child to go to my moms and do bible study games etc while being sick as you have met my mom and the child really likes her. Because of the impression you gave me in the beginning and because the bond you had with me and the child I did told you over and over I will not be working for you but instead help in the child’s life as I was concern too regarding her bullying and she was extremely vulnerable to others. I quit and moved forward. Never reported you or anything and I have witnesses and you decided to come on here and give a remark on what on you bullying me to do as you pleased and risk my own life for you.